The First Marriage V: Covenant

Have you ever stopped to consider why certain traditions are so common in Christian weddings?

• Why do they often take place in a church?

• Why are rings exchanged?

• Why is there a gathering of family and friends to witness the union?

While these elements may seem cultural or traditional, there is a deeper, spiritual reason behind them. Marriage, from a Christian perspective, is not just a romantic gesture or a public celebration. It is a sacred covenant before God.

Marriage Is a Covenant, Not Just a Contract

The idea of marriage as a covenant is central to the Christian faith. A covenant is a solemn and binding agreement — far deeper than a legal contract or an emotional promise.

“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”— Matthew 19:6 (NIV)

This is why Christian marriages are often marked by symbolism:

1. The Church Gathering

While it's common for weddings to be held in a church building, the true significance lies not in the structure but in the presence of God among His people.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”— Matthew 18:20 (NIV)

The first marriage in history — Adam and Eve’s — was performed in the very presence of God. Today, we continue that pattern by acknowledging that God Himself is the true officiant of every Christian marriage. You could even imagine heaven’s angels joining the celebration!

2. The Rings

The wedding ring, a circle without end, symbolises the unbroken, eternal nature of the covenant. While the Bible doesn't require the use of rings, they serve as a visual reminder of the vows made.

In some cultures, instead of rings, a Bible is presented — emphasising that God's Word is the foundation of the marriage.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”— Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV)

This "third strand" is Christ — the one who holds the marriage together.

3. The Witnesses

Having a cloud of witnesses isn’t just for show. It reflects a biblical principle: covenants are often made publicly, in the presence of others, who help hold the couple accountable.

“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you…”— Deuteronomy 30:19 (NIV)

“In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels, I give you this charge...”— 1 Timothy 5:21 (NIV)

Witnesses remind us that our commitments aren’t made in isolation, but within a community.

Key Truths About Covenants

1. Covenants Should Not Be Broken

Covenants are not casual; they are meant to be upheld even in the most difficult circumstances. If broken or strained, they should be repaired, not discarded.

“When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow.”— Ecclesiastes 5:4 (NIV)

2. Covenants Are Meant to Be Kept Fully

A covenant is not partial. We are to honour every part of it — through faithfulness, love, respect, and sacrificial service.

“Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’”— Matthew 5:37 (NIV)

3. Covenants Are Generational

   

Marriage affects not only the couple but also future generations—the health and integrity of a marriage ripple into the lives of children, grandchildren, and communities.

“But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children.”— Psalm 103:17 (NIV)

4. Covenants Made Before Witnesses Carry Accountability

A covenant made publicly is not easily dismissed privately. Those who witnessed the vows — family, friends, the church — are also there to support and lovingly remind the couple of their commitment.

“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.”— Proverbs 15:22 (NIV)

Conclusion

Marriage is holy. It is not built on fleeting emotions or cultural customs, but on the enduring truth of God’s covenant love. When we approach marriage this way — with reverence, commitment, and God at the centre — we reflect His glory to the world.

May every Christian marriage be a living testimony of the covenant-keeping God we serve.